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Sunday, March 31, 2024
Elon Musk says Russia 'will certainly gain more land' in Ukraine
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Saturday, March 30, 2024
"[The xz exploit] is RCE, not auth bypass"
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Friday, March 29, 2024
My wife refuses to attend any event that "conflicts" with her religion. Is she a bigot?
About 4 to 5 years ago, my wife started following a new religion. I genuinely have little idea about it but the church she follows online is primarily, if not all, African American. She started following a Sabbath and gives 10% of her salary to the church or other charitable causes.
It has caused a number of frustrations, but we carry on. One thing however is she refuses to go to anything that may conflict with her religion, and I'm not talking about heavy metal concerts.
Recent examples - I have a Hindu friend getting married and invited us. She won't go because it requires going to a Hindu temple. Anything outside of her faith is considered pagan.
Family are having a "fun day" today. We try to do this a couple times a year and Easter Friday is a good day as everyone is off. My aunt messaged everyone and mentioned "Easter Fun Day". Because she considers Easter pagan, or at least have pagan origins/traits, she refuses to go, leaving me with both young kids to travel 2 hours with. It's going to be at my aunt's house, no one is praying or performing any Easter rituals (maybe some egg shaped chocolates) etc.
I was quite annoyed, but thinking if it's similar with other religious people.
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Thursday, March 28, 2024
Eric Bischoff on Tony Khan: A money mark with no talent other than spending daddy’s money, going all the way to Canada to draw less than 4k in one of the hottest pro wrestling markets in North America, talking about “wise choices”? Strap in. It’s going to be a fun day!
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Wednesday, March 27, 2024
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Tuesday, March 26, 2024
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Monday, March 25, 2024
Without Me You're Nothing: The Essential Guide to Home Computers (Frank Herbert)
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Sunday, March 24, 2024
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Saturday, March 23, 2024
Gen Z is having less sex, relationships, etc because LIFE IS TOO EXPENSIVE NOW
Tired of hearing bs that Gen Z "anti social" no everything is just too expensive that I rather stay home.
Having a life is literally unaffordable now
Edit: Yes there are other factors as well obviously but I do think money plays a big part and all these up votes are saying something
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Friday, March 22, 2024
I had an unexpected threesome with my best friend and my boyfriend. Am I wrong to feel extremely betrayed by them both?
Just the other night, I was hanging out with my best friend and my boyfriend in her apartment. It started out innocently enough with us playing games and watching movies. Then we started playing “never have I ever” and the questions were pretty sexual. She then asked “never have I ever had a threesome” and both me and my boyfriend said no. Her entire vibe changed (to the point it was scary) and she looked at us both. She said “what if we did something crazy?” I kind of laughed because no part of me could’ve ever fathomed what she meant. But then she scooted closer to my boyfriend and started kissing him! He wasn’t stopping her. I just froze. It felt surreal, like a dream/nightmare. There they were making out like it was the most natural thing in the world. I think I had a trauma response of sorts and kind of… tricked myself into thinking this was normal? I can’t explain it. But it’s like my brain wasn’t ready to feel the extent of what was happening so it tricked itself. They started undressing each other and on instinct I undressed myself too. This isn’t a sex sub so I won’t go into the dirty details but a full-fledge threesome occurred between us.
The next morning I woke up at first believing I had dreamt it, but there they were naked on the floor together. I still couldn’t process what the hell occurred so I just kind of ran out. When it finally hit me I had a full fledge breakdown. I’ve gotten calls and texts from both of them asking if I’m okay. I haven’t responded. I can’t respond. I’ve thrown up twice from the intrusive memories. I didn’t want this. Why did I go along with this? Why didn’t I stop it? Why did SHE start it? Questions just keep swimming in my brain.
I don’t know what the hell to do. Last text from my boyfriend was “I hope you aren’t upset, I think that was such a special event in our relationship even though it was insane.” He’s knocked on my door and I haven’t opened it.
I have no idea where to go from here. I still love him but I can’t look at him the same I mean I fucking saw his dick go in and out of my best friend. Not to mention her. I feel like I’ve been betrayed in the most disgusting way even though I let it happen/participated.
Am I right to feel like they did wrong in the worst way?
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Thursday, March 21, 2024
First it was Facebook, then Twitter. Is Reddit about to become rubbish too?
Article URL: https://www.theguardian.com/commentisfree/2024/mar/20/facebook-twitter-reddit-rubbish-ipo
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Wednesday, March 20, 2024
The C++ Killers (Not You, Rust)
Article URL: https://wordsandbuttons.online/the_real_cpp_killers.html
Comments URL: https://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=39770467
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Tuesday, March 19, 2024
Clemson University files lawsuit against the ACC regarding the Grant of Rights
Looks like Clemson is joining the fight against the ACC with FSU
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Monday, March 18, 2024
Show HN: Func Runner – Managed Function Calling for OpenAI Assistants
Hi Everyone!
Username: hackernews Password: ilovehn
A Note On Demo Credentials
I have provided some credentials above for everyone to use and will keep the demo up and running as long as I fiscally can. I am not rich so if my Azure or OpenAI bill gets out of hand I will have to temporarily disable the demo. I wanted to make this easy for everyone to see so I am eating the cloud cost right now so please play nice :).
Why I Built Func Runner
I built Func Runner, which is a managed function calling provider for OpenAI Assistants that allows anyone to quickly build function calling enabled assistants using Python. Although function calling is not incredibly difficult to implement on your own, I felt that this pattern was something I had done frequently enough to warrant toying with the idea of providing a service built around it. My target audience would likely be from one of two camps. Camp A would be hobbyist Python programmers looking to build their own assistants who also lack the technical chops to build a full-fledged application. Camp B would potentially be professional developers looking to abstract away their assistant code execution so they can worry about other problems.
What Func Runner Does
In a nutshell, I built a system that deploys a dedicated serverless Durable Function app service to Microsoft Azure for each of your assistants. The Python functions you write are deployed as executable activities inside your app service. To enable this, I have effectively built a proxy service around the OpenAI API mixed with my own secret sauce to handle function executions on your behalf. The proxy is 100% compatible with all existing OpenAI libraries and requires minimal setup to adopt. Whenever I see a run execution with the state of “requires_action”, func runner steps in and orchestrates the execution and return of results back to your OpenAI assistant.
Key Features Right Now
- Custom Python code execution in a serverless environment dedicated to your assistant.
- Python dependency management and secret storage for sensitive keys.
- A ChatGPT chat experience powered by an OpenAI proxy service with specialized function calling handling.
Although this project is still in its infancy, it has been a great source of fun building it out over the past few months.
Please let me know what you think, ask any questions you may like and please excuse any bugs :)
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Sunday, March 17, 2024
Perfectly exemplifies what addiction feels like
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Saturday, March 16, 2024
The broken housing market is merging with America's polarized political culture
Article URL: https://fortune.com/2024/03/16/homeowners-red-renters-blue-broken-housing-market-polarized-political-culture/
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StaleSweeper – Automatically closes stale discussions in GitHub Discussion space
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Friday, March 15, 2024
How to properly finetune an LLM when you only have text, not formatted Q&A
title says it all, but basically how would did openai, llama, and mistral train on so much text that can't be manually formatted?
how could we finetune them without having to manually and painstakingly format our text into json?
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Thursday, March 14, 2024
List comparing prices for various LLMs
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Wednesday, March 13, 2024
UPDATE on finding my wife unattractive after her plastic surgery.
[Original post](https://www.reddit.com/r/AITAH/comments/1baxuez/aita_for_being_truthful_and_admitting_that_i_find/)
My wife came home yesterday and we finally had a long talk.
She told me that the reason she had the surgery was because her mom and sister talked her into it. They convinced her that she was starting to look old and that I would find someone else to be with if she did not do something. That was why her mom gave her the money for the operations.
Her mom and sister look like Bruce Campbell in Escape From LA. They are the very last people on the planet that should be telling anyone to get plastic surgery. I used some of the comments I read on my post as talking points. I told her that I loved her and that she was the person that I wanted to spend my life with. I told her that the surgery would take a while longer to settle down and that as I got more used to her new face I would learn to appreciate it.
She asked me if I wanted her to see if she could get it reversed. I almost screamed at her. The last thing in the world I want is for her to fuck up her face more than it already is. I asked her if she could please just leave it and let me get used to it.
We talked for about three hours and we decided that her mom and sister would not be a part of any decisions in our life going forward. She is going to leave her face alone and give me a chance to get used to it. We are going to look for a marriage counselor and maybe individual counselors for each of us. I am going to make an effort to show her every day how I still find her desirable and she is going to make an effort to believe me when I tell her I love her the way she is.
We are going to talk to her mom and sister and tell them that we are taking a break from them. We are going to block them and get our shit together before we allow them back into our lives.
Thank you to everyone who tried to help me.
I would like to add that I did not think there were that many guys out there with a weird blue squid lady fetish. It isn't for me but you do you.
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Tuesday, March 12, 2024
The future
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Monday, March 11, 2024
America: Debt Free by 2013
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Sunday, March 10, 2024
My best boy passed away yesterday just one day shy of his 16th birthday. Can you all please celebrate his life with me. I feel so heartbroken.
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Saturday, March 9, 2024
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Thursday, March 7, 2024
The Human Side of Software Engineering Teams
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Wednesday, March 6, 2024
Ask HN: Excellent Go SDKs?
Hi folks - do you use any Golang SDKs you absolutely love?
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Razor and Perch merge, raise $100M on a $1.7B valuation
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Tuesday, March 5, 2024
Could the Old AT&T Break-Up Offer Lessons for Big Tech Today? (2019)
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Monday, March 4, 2024
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Sunday, March 3, 2024
Corporate Tax Avoidance in the First Five Years of the Trump Tax Law
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Saturday, March 2, 2024
[New Update] - Husband overhears OOP telling her friend that settling isn't the worst thing in the world.
I am NOT OP. Original post by u/Educational-Law-226
Originally posted to r/AITAH
[New Update] - Husband overhears OOP telling her friend that settling isn't the worst thing in the world.
Previous BoRU: Originally posted by u/Stephenallen1977
Editor’s Note: added small notes to help clarify up some details
NEW UPDATE MARKED WITH --------
Trigger Warnings: childhood bullying, possible repressed trauma
Mood Spoilers: Positive
RECAP
AITAH for telling my friend that being settled for isn’t the worst thing in the world? 16th August 2023
My friend Anna and I were talking about her dating life. Anna is an incredibly beautiful woman and she could have her pick of men. She broke up with her boyfriend because she was out of his league and he knew it. He would act in insecure ways. Anna stated that she didn’t want to settle for someone less than the best. She asked me why would anyone settle and brought up my marriage as a positive example of love. I told her that my husband settled for me and he wasn’t attracted to me and we still had a happy marriage. Being settled for isn’t the worst thing in the world.
My husband Allan and I are happily married high school sweethearts. He was heavily bullied in middle and high school. When I moved into his hometown in sophomore year, I stood up for him. By the end of senior year, he had friends and he asked me to prom. 10 years later, we are happily married.
However, I know that my husband doesn’t find me attractive. I’m naturally taller and more muscular than the average woman. It’s a huge insecurity of mine. A year after we married, my husband drunkenly confessed that he didn’t find me attractive (he prefers petite women with delicate facial features) but he was grateful for what I did and felt obliged to thank me. Which is why he asked me out to prom, why we dated throughout college, why he proposed. He still loved me very much but wasn’t attracted to me. The next morning he was hungover and had forgotten his confession. He doesn’t drink much because he doesn’t have a filter and tells the unvarnished truth.
I felt crushed but our marriage was very good otherwise. I never told him what he said that night. He was a great husband. I don’t think most men are attracted to the way I look anyways. I explained this all to Anna and she was grateful for the advice.
That night, Allan started crying. He was crying silently but I woke up. I hugged him and asked what was wrong and he admitted he overheard our conversation. I didn’t expect him to overhear since I was in the basement but he heard his name and decided to listen in. I apologized for hurting his feelings but it just made him sob harder. I don’t know what I did wrong/if I did anything wrong? AITA?
Edit: I wasn’t advising Anna to settle. She would never be happy settling for someone. I just told her that settling isn’t the worst thing in the world and my marriage is one of settlement. My husband settled for me and we’re happy. My advice was to stay true to herself and her beliefs. If she’s not happy, then the relationship can’t move forward.
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I don't think you are the asshole in this absolutely not in anyway. But I am curious if your husband ended up talking to you about it?
OOP: No, we haven’t really gotten around to it. He’s been down for the past few days and any time I’ve tried to gently prod him, he started crying and I comforted him. I’ve decided to leave it alone until he feels comfortable to talk but I feel guilty in case I did something wrong to hurt him that deeply
NTA but you need to talk to your husband about this. Either he is really struggling with guilt about his confession or is really triggering with unhappiness in the relationship, and either way you two need to talk about it. Also whew you are a saint for dealing with that confession so gracefully.
OOP: I have tried to talk to him about what he overheard. He has just started crying, sometimes even sobbing, and I just comforted him. I didn’t want to hurt him more so I’ve left the topic alone for now until he can tell me how he feels.
I don’t think he’s unhappy in our relationship but you never know.
I wish I was a saint. It would probably hurt less but I love my husband and didn’t want to hurt him by bringing up his confession ever.
It sounds like he thinks you think you settled for a guy who doesn’t find you attractive. Like he broke both your hearts.
OOP: I didn’t settle for him. I’m lucky to be in this relationship at all
No, i hope you don’t believe that.. what I’m saying is is that maybe that is the reason for his his tears. I do think you are both need to have a loving convo. I meant what I said about him feeling like he broke both of your hearts because I would have felt that way. Both devastated to have said it and devastated that the person I loved would have heard it, you know.
OOP: I hope that’s not why he’s crying.
I’ve long since moved past it. In fact, since I was young I didn’t think that there would be people who would be attracted to me. So, it hurt many years back but even then I wasn’t shocked, probably because I had already gotten used to the idea of no one being attracted to me.
I’m grateful my husband loves me and I’ve told him that.
I would be kind of worried that he’s been considering separation…. You should really look into scheduling some couples therapy to mediate what’s going on here… regardless, him being this upset warrants him seeing a professional outside of the relationship that he can confide in. I’m very sorry OP
OOP If he’s considering separation I’d be heartbroken but I’d have to support him. He doesn’t deserve to be in a marriage where he isn’t happy and if he wants someone he is attracted to, he has to leave me.
I’ll let him know that it’s okay if he wants to separate and bring up couples therapy.
Overall Judgement - NTA
(Update) AITAH for telling my friend being settled for isn’t the worst thing in the world? 27th August 2023
Hello, I’m back with a short update. I got a lot of messages on my post and it was a bit overwhelming. I want to say I am a people pleaser not just for my husband but for my friends and family too. I want them to be happy. I love my husband and want the best for him. We are very monogamous and I value fidelity.
We had sessions of couples therapy and he now has a personal therapist. It was surprisingly easy to find someone that suited us but I did pay a lot of money for our sessions but they left me feeling baffled.
Our counselor was a no nonsense but comforting older woman. We went through our life, how he was bullied, how we met, how we married, our careers. I told her about how he had drunkenly told me he wasn’t attracted to me but that didn’t matter because we loved each other and I don’t know what made him upset.
She asked us honestly if we wouldn’t be happier as best friends but married to other people. Allan adamantly said no. She brought up affection, sex life, those things. We told her we had an active sex life with a couple quirks and we’re very affectionate, etc. which she focused on. She basically said someone is lying at some point because you can’t have all of those thing together.
She asked Allan to walk through his attraction and he snapped and said he didn’t want to talk of having disgusting/bad thoughts about me. It was a very long conversation after and I’m still confused but essentially he thought that anyone sexualizing or having those kinds of thoughts about me was bad, especially other people. He loved me for me. It wasn’t even about me being his wife, or me being a woman, or those common things. He thought anyone who had thoughts about me was bad and I should be protected from them.
Allan told the counselor that I was too soft and gentle and pure to think that there are bad thoughts about me and bad people. I’ve never heard that before from anyone. I told our counselor nothing bad has happened to me. I was worried if Allan had trauma in his past that made him wary of others since he had been bullied so viciously in school but he said that I was thinking of him again and I should think about myself. He said I still didn’t realize that the world is scary for me.
The counselor asked about any guilt he felt about attraction and he broke down. A couple of years ago, I had intensive surgery and Allan helped me with everything, even eating, showering, and getting around. He confessed that when he helped me with bathing or dressing me, he accidentally looked more than he should and he could feel that I was starting to realize he was having those thoughts about me and shut down. I don’t really remember that but he’s my husband. I didn’t and don’t mind if he looks. He talked about how much he loves me and wants to spend the rest of his life with me.
My counselor said I have grown up to think of others wants and desires above my own and I do have people pleasing tendencies but on the whole I’m pretty mentally healthy. I got a few booklets and packets to fill out. My husband was told he needed intensive therapy as soon as possible. He had his first session a few days ago. I don’t know where this is going or what happened to make him think the way he does. He didn’t grow up in a religious environment. His parents are very affectionate and have a strong marriage. I still love and support my husband.
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Oh wow! This is NOT how I expected the update to go but it makes so much sense.
I thought YOU would have had the serious trauma and that's where the people pleasing tendencies come from. Turns out that doesn't have anything below it and your husband has the serious trauma. I'm glad he is getting help, and it sounds to me like he said that because he was projecting his own shame for being SO attracted to you. I hope that he has significant healing from his trauma, and that you can start to heal your self esteem now that you know that none of this was a reflection of you at all.
OOP I have no real trauma. I get up happy, healthy, and well loved. I’ve always been a people minded person. I’ve taken care of my siblings as the oldest daughter but that was because I wanted to, not because my parents forced me to. Because I was taller and looked older than the other children, I’ve alway been treated as older and more mature than my age. It was what confused me about my husbands comments on me being more innocent and basically more naive than others and how worried he was about me. No one has ever said that about me.
I don’t know where my husband’s trauma comes from but we’ll work through it together. I know he will heal and we’ll be stronger.
Wow. Hubby feels guilty for being attracted to you while he was your caregiver. He doesn't realize many men would leave if wife were sick. I hope he finds why he feels like this.
OOP He feels that it’s bad or evil for anyone to have those thoughts about me. I don’t know why.
Allan was wonderful during my recovery. I never felt uncomfortable at all. I know many husbands that wouldn’t care for their wives like he did. I don’t know why he feels guilty. He said he was supposed to take care of me but subconsciously had those bad thoughts and looked more than he should. But I don’t know why any thoughts of being attracted to my body as my husband are bad to him. He’s my husband.
Wow. Your husband is pretty much worshipping you to the point that he views that to desire you sexually is a sin. In other words, he is basically marrying his Virgin Mary so no one could taint her image. So in his beliefs, you have to be out of his league, because there is no way for him to reach his goddess. Yes he does need therapy, this is not how the marriage work. You love him and he loves you, but he is about to place you on the altar and to sing his rosary. That is not healthy.
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(Update 2) AITAH for telling my friend being settled for isn’t the worst thing in the world?: February 23, 2024 (six months later)
Hello I am back with some updates. My husband Allan and I still go to marriage counseling but he quit therapy because he said it made him worse.
We found out a lot during therapy. Much of his trauma came from school where he was being brutally bullied. The adults turned a blind eye, his friends abandoned him, and he couldn’t tell his parents. So he felt alone until I arrived. I was well liked and because I protected him the bullies stopped and people were nice to him again. He loved me and saw me as his savior.
The problem was his mental state wasn’t good. I think my husband was in the process of being diagnosed, but he has intrusive thoughts.
I’ve always been taller and more muscular than other kids and treated as older. I’m still obviously female, just one that’s naturally taller and stouter. With beauty standards emphasizing small and thin, I always felt weird about my body. But that doesn’t stop creepy men and it didn’t stop teenage boys. And his bullies made comments about me that are degrading but not atypical for cruel teenage boys.
Some of what they said matched his thoughts because they were normal thoughts, intrusive thoughts, or just fantasies. He had a lot of fantasies and a lot of intrusive thoughts about me.
It confirmed to him that people have bad thoughts about me and he is just as bad but the difference was he could control it. So he made a decision not to be attracted to me.
He said the more he got to know me, the more pure and precious I seemed and the less he could let the rot out. He had to keep me safe because the world would destroy me.
And the comments he made when he was drunk was one of deep denial and trying to reassure me that he didn’t have disgusting thought about me.
That does explain some things about how my husband behaves around me and especially in the bedroom. It also explains why he’s very protective of me. He’s always been an adoring husband which is at odds with someone who is not attracted to me.
The bathtub memory affected him a lot because he could rationalize a lot of things but for the first time I was vulnerable physically and in need of his help and his fantasies and intrusive thoughts got worse.
Some of the therapy was to try to get me off the pedestal but it didn’t really work and his intrusive thoughts got worse. He said he had to quit and I supported him. He told me some of his fantasies and some were normal and some were disturbing I told him that I loved and trusted him. Our marriage is strong and I will stay by his side and help him.
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llamadrama2021 Maybe a different therapist? He can't continue to live this way. It will eat him up inside.
OOP He is averse to the thought of therapy now. It’s good that he still comes to marriage counseling. I don’t want to push him to something that makes him uncomfortable but I do want him to find a therapist. I will do some research to find a better therapist. My plan is to help him feel more comfortable and then when he is better, suggest therapy again.
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