Husband’s only sister eldest daughter (f26) is getting married. I am genuinely happy for her. Save the date was addressed to husband and family. Couples shower invite addressed to just him. He was really upset and went to ask his mother if I was really invited. I am not. “I trigger his sister, so niece is not inviting me but wants my husband and kids to attend.”
Back story - spouse and I married 20+ years. 2 kids (young teens). Sil married 2 kids - older both 20+
18 months ago, my husbands father passed away. At the funeral, my other niece (f20) said some cruel things to my youngest. I asked for her to apologize to my youngest. (That’s it). Instead I was accused of destroying the family. I was attacked for defending my kid. SiL sent a letter justifying her daughter’s words. No apology, lots of excuses. For the past 25+ years I have always been accommodating. They lived out of town, visited 6-10 days a year. What ever they wanted to do was tolerable and short term, I tried to be helpful and agreeable. This is the first time, I have ever stood up to them.
The wedding is states away. My teens are aware, one is adamant that she will not attend without me. Other one is unsure what to do, not wanting to let down her grandmother. Husband is furious. MIL is playing Switzerland.
Trying to take the high road. Trying not to spiral.
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