Pretty much the title. We just had our third child and he suddenly informs me he no longer “believes” in vaccines and doesn’t want to get them for the new babe until the child is at least three. We have two older kids who both had all of their vaccines on schedule without problem (and a few extras because they were born premature). This new opinion coincides with him spending a lot more time on his phone, so I know his algorithm is just fucked and he’s interacted with the wrong content too much, but still, what do I do? Child is supposed to get the first round of shots on Friday, and at this point I plan on taking them in secret while partner is at work, but are there legal ramifications to this somehow? We’re in Canada, for reference.
Other pertinent info: I’m the stay at home parent, spend the bulk of time with all of our kids, am the one making the appointments when they need routine stuff done, etc. He works and spends the majority of the money, our relationship has other issues, but this is the most pressing. He wants me to “do the research” and basically convince him he’s wrong (which like… when?? We have a newborn baby and two kids in school and sports and all the things - I don’t exactly have an abundance of free time to research peer reviewed articles about vaccines).
He’s mentioned that if the baby gets vaccinated and suddenly shows signs of autism or other diagnoses he won’t be able to “handle it” and will leave. I’d rather have an autistic child than a dead one.
I feel so absolutely trapped and don’t know what to do (I mean I do, but not without blowing up our lives).
Meal is sourdough toast with scrambled eggs and kimchi cause I have a baby and anything more complicated ain’t happening right now.
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