My [24f] girlfriend's phone and purse got stolen in the riots, she wants a $1500 iphone, I [25m] told her I am I will buy her a $250 android phone and nothing more, she is threatening to break up with me.

My girlfriend and I have both been together for a year and a half. We don't live together but now during quarantine she has started sleeping over my place a lot and is over my apartment more days than not.

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Now when these protests started happening I told her that it is not safe for her. We are both Indian and that there is a lot of racism against our people because we are known for owning stores in black neighborhoods. Plus things have been tense. I urged her not to go for her safety. She called me racist saying that I was stereotyping people. And she was angry for me not going I told her that I will exercise my civic duty in the election booth, not over protest.

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She went out at 1pm ... I saw she posted on Instagram throughout till 4:30pm. I texted her .. no response, 6:00pm call her no response. 9:00pm no response. I reach out to her friend nothing, finally, I call her friend's houses that also live in DC finally heard from one of them that she just got back that my girlfriend is on the way home soon. Finally, see my girlfriend after worried sick about her. She told me that she was mugged by a group of men, her friend was pushed to the ground got her purse yanked.

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We talked about it her friend Sarah was roughed up more as someone also kicked her in the gut when she fell. I didn't tell her I told ya so or anything. I just helped her deactivate her credit cards and change passwords for banking apps etc. My girlfriend also needed her phone for RSA into work so she needs a phone.

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My girlfriend told me she isn't in a place to buy a phone that money was tight beforehand. She starts looking at the Iphone 11... she had an Iphone X before. I tell her if she is looking for me to buy her a phone I am not paying for her to get a $1500 phone. She tells me that her purse etc everything she lost was over 2.5k. I told her that is her fault, I tell her that I am more than willing to help her out. But I am going to get her a cheap android phone.

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She gets ANGRY at me, calling me cheap. I am like you are the one that lost your stuff being stupid. She then calls me an asshole getting angrier and angrier. She then threatened to break up with me saying that I should be taking care of her during a time like this if anything. We get into another fight. I told her that I have, that she is staying at my place 90% of the food I am buying and now she wants a top of the line iphone from her own stupidity.

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She then says I am victim blaming. I told her that she can ask the guys that mugged her for her phone back. Or she can file a police report. I don't know what to say? Like if you need a phone for basic parts of life sure I'll do it. But this expensive phone is not necessary.

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I am not sure what to do here? I feel like I am already being pretty kind here in helping out and I don't know why she is expecting this much for me? Like if she asked her parents they wouldn't buy her a phone. I don't know? I love her but I don't think this is fair at all. What should I do next?

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Tl:Dr- girlfriend lost her phone after being mugged. She is asking me to buy her a new iphone I am telling her absolutely not. That I will get her a $250 phone. she then threatens to break up with me.

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