Long story short, told her I just needed a few days to sleep better (our apartment has a cat, her 2 small children - 4 and 8, which makes it hard to sleep). I anticipated her being very upset by this, as she is very clingy (probably to an unhealthy degree).
She proceeds to lose her mind, which has made no sense to anyone I've told this to. I had no intention of breaking up with her, which is what I led with. She threatens me with an ultimatum, that she'll break up with me if I leave at all - which I laugh off as insane (which it was).
So I went to visit my parents to do so, and she literally blocked me on all platforms, as soon as I got to the airport.
After a 4 hour phone conversation, we reconciled. Then today she pulls the same thing again out of nowhere, when I was supposed to fly back in 3-4 hours.
The worst part? There were no warning signs before any of this. I am completely crushed. All because I just wanted to get some sleep.
TLDR: Just wanted to sleep, dumped by fiancee.
EDIT: Wow! Did not expect this to blow up. My CNS is still shot from this, so I only slept a few hours, and woke up to this. Obviously I can't get back to everyone, but here are some more relevant details...
I love the kids, but they are super out of control. I have never taken any break from this woman, in the 10 months we've been dating, at least of more than 24 hours, or less. She has taken a few breaks. I do 50% of the 'domestic' work, and treat the kids like they are my own. I have a hard time sleeping because they cat is almost nocturnal, and wakes us up every 2-3 hours. I can't fall back asleep easily, she can. She sleeps 8-9 hours a night, I've been averaging 4-5 hours, recently. The kids come in at 6AM every day and wake us up, no matter what.
To some saying she has BPD and / or abandonment issues - I don't think you are far off. I actually think bi polar too, lately. I have always supported her through any issues, and only led with 'I'm not breaking up with you', because she is so sensitive to anything being wrong. I would have stayed at a hotel, but I haven't seen my parents much in the last 10 months, so I thought '2 birds, 1 stone'.
It has been 24 hours since we've spoken directly (only a little through a friend). I do expect her to reach out more, and like most have said, try to get back together. I imagine it will be a little while, and that it will probably come when this really sets in, that I'm not there. Anyway, this has been valuable feedback, thanks.
EDIT 2: She just called, sobbing. 45 minute conversation. Wants to get back together, as expected. Thoughts?
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