My [F22] boyfriend [26M] sexualizes my rape and won't stop doing it

I've been dating my SO for a few months, I recently opened up to him about my rape, it was nerve wracking to do but I'm glad I got it off my chest. He was supportive, telling me how awful it was that it happened to me and generally being there for me. But soon after that he started asking me how I would've reacted if he had touched me the way my rapist did.

I was puzzled by his question, it sounded like he was trying to make dirty talk around my rape, at first I thought it's some sort of a way for him to deal with this information by sexualizing it to make it normal so that he doesn't have to feel like I was raped, or something like that, maybe he wanted us to roleplay that with him being in the rapist's place.

I told him I don't like it being sexualized like that because I don't consider it as something I want to think of in a normal light. He dropped it and I thought that was the end of it.

But he recently began talking of it all over again, he did it two more times and I told him I'm uncomfortable with it and that it felt like he was sexualizing my rape, and he says every time that he forgot that I don't like it. But how can he forget it every single time.

What should I do in this case, is it worth breaking up over, it deeply hurts me that he thinks like this. But I know some people have a rape kink, yet I really don't think it was appropriate of him to immediately talk about that after I opened up to him about being sexually abused.

Sorry for my bad English by the way it's not my first language..

EDIT 1: Some people are messaging me telling me about rape kink/sending me link of the rape kink subreddit and suggesting that I should try it, I don't want to try it so stop messaging me that.

EDIT 2: I've decided to break up with him, thank you to all those who left kind comments

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