So the backstory goes like this:
Ex and I had a son together. She decided one day to split and go live the party life. I take our son and move on and meet and marry my now wife. Wife and I buy a house and have a new baby ourselves. Ex meets someone and they become meth heads together. At that point I sought custody of our son and won. Our custody arrangement states that I have primary care and she is to only see him every other weekend supervised at/by her parents. Which for a long time she rarely, if at all showed up. Ex and new boyfriend have extremely volatile and abusive relationship, she gets pregnant and new boyfriend leaves. Ex appears to have gotten it together enough now that she’s pregnant. Or so it appeared.
On to the issue.
Ex gives birth to new baby. I get a phone call THAT DAY from dss saying that they’d like to come do a home visit to check on my son because she failed a drug test (for marijuana) when she gave birth. This was not the first instance during the pregnancy that dss was involved. From my understanding, she failed for the same reason early in the pregnancy so I guess dss kept her on their radar. So dss calls me explains what’s happening and even asks if I’d be willing to do a drug test as well.
I have and want as little as possible to do with my ex. As I stated, i moved on and feel I’m doing well for me and my family. She is the unfortunate consequence for my young naivety. I do not regret having my son I just wish she wasn’t his mother.
So because of her actions and choices, I’m being dragged in by proxy.
My job is very laborious and in the interest of full transparency, I myself (responsibly) smoke weed at night before bed.
So what are my options as far as what dss is asking of me? Do I consent to everything? Do I seek legal representation? What happens if I take the drug test and fail? Will I lose my kids?
This is really the most stressful situation for me and my wife who have nothing to do with her and her problems except the fact she’s my sons mother
This is in SC
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